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What kids really need is love without strings attached. But if all that’s offered— the only alternative to criticism or neglect— is approval based on what they’ve done, they’ll lap that up and then, perhaps vaguely unsatisfied, come back for more. Sadly, some parents who received too little unconditional love when they were children end up misdiagnosing the problem and assume that it was praise they lacked. Then they “Good job!” their own children to death, ensuring that another generation fails to get what’s really needed.

Quote ID: 01178

Author

Alfie Kohn

Source

Unconditional Parenting

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