Unconditional Parenting | Quote 01635

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We might say it’s our job to be “in control,” in the sense of creating a healthy and safe environment, offering guidance, and setting limits— but it’s not our job to be “controlling,” in the sense of demanding absolute obedience or relying on pressure or continuous regulation. In fact, although it may sound paradoxical, we need to be in control of helping them to gain control over their own lives. The goal is empowerment rather than conformity, and the methods are respectful rather than coercive.

Quote ID: 01635


Alfie Kohn


Unconditional Parenting

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