Unconditional Parenting | Quote 00899

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To punish kids, very simply, is to make something unpleasant happen to them— or prevent them from experiencing something pleasant— usually with the goal of changing their future behavior. The punisher makes them suffer, in other words, to teach them a lesson. Fundamental questions about the wisdom of this approach may suggest themselves even before we look at the results of scientific investigations. For example, it may occur to us to ask: How likely is it that intentionally making children unhappy will prove beneficial in the long run? And: If punishment is so effective, how come I have to keep doing it to my child over and over?

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Alfie Kohn


Unconditional Parenting

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