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In order to be a caring person, a parent or teacher must first be a person. Many of us are inclined instead to hide behind the mannerisms of a constantly competent , smoothly controlling, crisply authoritative Parent or Teacher . To do so is to play a role, and even if the script calls for nurturance, this is not the same as being fully human in front of a child. A person (as opposed to a parent or teacher figure) sometimes gets flustered or distracted or tired, says things without thinking and later regrets them, asks children for their opinions, maintains interests outside of parenting or teaching and doesn’t mind discussing them.

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Alfie Kohn


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